9 Natural Ways to Boost Your Sex Life

Want more excitement? Stimulation? Satisfaction? There are several drug-free ways to spice up your sex life.

 

 

 

 

 

If your time in bed with your partner isn’t all you’d like it to be, take heart. Literally.Having a date night with your partner — to remind yourself of all the reasons you adore each other and to relax by being wined and dined — can be great ways to stimulate your libido, says Anita Sadaty, MD, a holistic gynecologist in Roslyn, New York.This is one of many natural ways that experts say you can improve your sex life.
Medical Reasons May Be Behind Sexual Problems or Disinterest

 

Of course, there may be a medical reason why your sex life is flagging. Diabetes, thyroid issues, cancer, and cardiac problems can lower sexual desire. Nerve issues, endometriosis, or other problems can cause sex to be painful for women. And certain medications — like some for blood pressure, depression, anxiety, and even birth control — may inhibit desire.That’s why it’s important to get a medical checkup if you are experiencing symptoms that affect your sex life and get your condition properly treated. You can also ask your doctor if it’s possible to switch your medication to something without a sexual side effect.But even if you have a medical cause, it doesn’t have to stop you from having satisfying sex.

 

1. Make Getting in the Mood for Sex a Priority

 

Sometimes, having more and better sex simply requires clearing your schedule. “It’s hard to be in the mood when you have a million things on your to-do list and not much time to do it,” Dr. Sadaty says.Scheduling sex might sound unromantic, but you put most of your important plans in your calendar, so why not sex? It’s best to schedule enough time to do something relaxing first rather than hopping straight into bed, since women, especially, need to be relaxed before their libido kicks in, Sadaty says.

 

2. Work on Your Mind and Notice Your Thoughts for Better Sex

 

If your brain is running a feedback loop of reasons you’ve picked up along the way — about how you should feel guilty about sex or maybe that your body is too fat or ugly or, well, whatever — it’s time to stop it in its tracks. Recognize the thought when it appears and change it to a more helpful one.This helps your sex life because, as a meta-analysis published in the International Journal of Clinical and Health Psychology found, people with more open attitudes about sex are better able to explore their sexuality without guilt.

 

3. Don’t Forget to Use Lubricants for Better Sex

 

Sex can be more pleasurable if you add a lubricant, which cuts down on friction and irritation and, therefore, discomfort, gynecologists say. You can buy an official lubricant from the drugstore or use a household oil like coconut oil. (Be sure to use a nonlatex condom if you DIY because these oils can damage latex.)Don’t try to hide your need for a lubricant from your partner. Make it part of your sexual routine and have fun with it.

 

4. Move Your Body to Improve Your Sex Life

 

You may not think that the exercise you do for your heart and muscles is important for good sex, but remember that blood flows to your genitals as much as to your heart.Men with erectile dysfunction (ED), for example, can sometimes reverse this problem with a healthy lifestyle that includes exercise, according to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Even in men requiring ED medication, healthy lifestyle changes likely add to the benefits, the researchers found.